Today I was reading about Karen Williams up and coming event star biz conference which I highly recommend for everyone who wants to shine, it is a great line up of speakers including another client of ours Roberta Jerram of Giant Potential.
Anyway I digress, with this event in mind and chatting to some fellow attendees of the recent clean conference. One thing that resonated with me about both of these events is
that these were genuine conferences, where no one is an expert in everything, but those that had a passion and purpose or perhaps more simply had discovered something that worked for them, were willing to share their success. It was not for a fee but for the greater good to make a difference.(although for some I am sure it could well follow because that is what happens when you build relationships)
I think one of the biggest challenges we face as leaders is that perhaps we put too much emphasis on the teams performance, being a direct reflection of whether we are any good. What happens if we share stuff? Does it mean we won’t get credit within the team or as the leader?
Think about it for a moment when a team member fails to do something what happens to you?
When they achieve something what happens to you?
I have heard it more than once that perhaps a team member does something and then feels the leader took credit or perhaps the team leader made a mistake and the team member take the fall.
What is this all about? What is happening in your team right now?
As a clean language facilitator and having recently attended my own development group with Marian Way of Clean Learning this weekend we were exploring emergence.
As we did that I recognised that even as a really experienced facilitator the session was now more about whether I was getting it right. For that moment it was OK, the environment was set for me to learn however if I were to carry that forward into my sessions and discussions with me team then what happens?
What does emerge from you and your team when it is about you?
I know for me my discussions with my team are never effective when it is about me, what I need, what I want or what I don’t want.
I am at my best as a leader when the shine is on them. The spot light, the glory the highlighting of their strengths, their own resources and enabling them the means to shine.
So when is the spotlight on you, when do you get to shine. Well if your are part of a bigger organisation then it could be that your line manager provides you with the same space where the focus is on you. But for many the buck often stops with you. If you are the founder or business owner how do you shine as a team leader?
For me I remember the very first Dale Carnegie book I ever read in the late 1980’s How to win friends and influence people?
The fundamental message I got from that is still with me today is that you have to just accept that ‘you know’ you made the difference. You have step looking for gratitude or appreciation, have to just know for yourself.
Now I like this idea in theory but it is hard when you are looking for evidence that you are doing a good job. This is where power groups are great, imagine if you could meet with other people who are leaders, sit around the table and share openly what you have noticed has worked, what is going well and have that developed and understood by peers. It could be leaders within your organisation or it could be leaders from other works of life.
You see I think how leaders shine is to meet with other leaders, when you are actually leading, ironically you have to almost slip into the background in that moment, it is not about you it is about the team. Belinda Butler attended a one day seminar about the extreme listening process we use and this is what she said:
If you would like to experience the power of a power group and you would like a moment to shine then please don’t miss our up and coming events.
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