I now appreciate what works for me


As many of you might know I am a facilitator with Step by Step Listening, and I have 2 other businesses, 3 daughters and a grandchild. For years I have felt out of sorts like I am going against the current and I felt a resistance to conform and be like others.

What happened, is I ended up keeping most of my great ideas inside, by working with Step by Step Listening and working in Power Groups I have developed a greater understanding of who I really am and how I work at my best and I have gradually been unveiling my ideas.

I treated myself to the retreat in Southern Brittany and attended as a client being completed looked after by Sheryl, Mark and Liam. This break helped me pull together all my learning that I had achieved over the past few years. I now have a great metaphor that helps me understand me and helps me explain to others how I work at my best so they can support me appropriately.

When I am working at my best I am like a surfer. There is a whole cycle for me as a surfer but today I would like to just share the start of the cycle.

Before I do anything that I love, I spend time making sure the conditions are right and that it is safe to leave. I then spend a bit of time on the beach some might think I am just sunbathing but I am in fact checking the weather reports, listening to the wind and noticing what is happening in the moment right now.

Even after all of this preparation I will still spend a while in the water getting a feel for things. I will be noticing what is happening whilst noticing what has changed, never assuming the weather report 100% but happy to trust my instincts.

Now for many years people thought I was dithering or delaying and would become impatient with me. Now that I know my process I can explain and often they are glad someone is double checking because invariably that is the last thing on their mind

Power Groups have allowed me to understand my own way of doing things and given me a structure to my sessions to enable my clients to find their own unique way. There is no shoe horning them into my way they can be free to explore what works for them. It is has quite literally transformed the way I teach music and I can really enable my Mary Kay clients to build up there own self confidence. This has all be achieved by transferring the simple communication strategies I learned by attending the Power Groups.

If you have a minute can I share what works for me as a music coach. I will often be making coffee or be milling around in another room while the student sets up and starts playing. I am in effect allowing them the space to check out the water while I check out a little way down the beach. 

This really works but what use to hold me back was the fear that the pupils would think I was not working, when in fact all the evidence says that this really works for my pupils too. 

By giving them space I am saying right from the start you can do this on your own. I am here and I have the experience to perhaps notice danger a little further ahead than you can and I am looking out so you don’t need to worry but I can see your potential and I really believe you can do this alone.

Power Groups gave me the confidence to know this is how I want to conduct my sessions and it gave me strategies to communicate that effectively to my pupils.

 Recognise your learning

What do you know NOW as a result of reading this, that perhaps you did not know before?

What difference does knowing that make, if any?

Plan your next best step

What would you like to have happen next?

Can you?

Thanks for Listening

Ros Bristow

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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