How to solve problems at work?
You probably know whether you have athlete potential or not.
Did you know that understanding how your own mind works can improve how you solve problems at work?
I was reading an article in the Times recently by Professor Ekkekakis who is a sports psychologist working on the way our brains interpret the body’s response to exercise and it got me thinking about how to solve problems at work more effectively.
His research indicates that we decide to stop exercising when we feel we have reached a point where our pain is too much. The interesting thing about this fact, which I’m sure we all have experienced, is how much this pain barrier varies in individuals and also how it can be moved and the brain can be deceived to allow us to continue with physical exertion long after it begins to hurt.
The reaction to stop when it hurts is a safety mechanism to prevent us harming ourselves so it should not be bypassed lightly but it turns out that our individual decision to stop is not only based on our current level of fitness but at least 50% of it is down to our genetic makeup.
Exercise psychologists believe that there is a little inner voice that tells us it is hurting too much and then we stop. This ability to ignore discomfort and the little voices either by genetic inheritance or by training yourself to have the ability to control it, goes some way to explaining why some make Olympic athletes and most of us do not.
I started to relate this to the way I and others respond to other unpleasant or painful situations and how I solve problems at work.
One of the things I have learned through my relationship with Step by Step Listening and attending many sessions is that not everyone is aware that we have varying levels of tolerance. It is interesting because I think we all understand that we have varying levels of tolerance and yet it can transform the communication between two people once you have the insight that these difference apply to all kinds of things from ablility to file for hours on end or the ability to sit cold calling for hours. The list goes on.
Knowing this and then being prepared to tweak your communications to allow for it can transform relationships and the results can be life changing. I have watched stressed parents and overworked business owners suddenly have a epiphany when they realise that they were assuming because they don’t like, can’t/won’t do something then that must be the same for others.
They are often asked the question and what would they (referring to the other party) like to have happen? We are often faced with a blank face, and something like “do you know what, I don’t know I have not asked them” or “I think they would like to have a go.”
Then what happens is the weight is off their shoulders and they have a choice, they can learn to let go and allow them to have a go and/or they can get over their fear and achieve it themselves. Either way life is easier.
When I spoke to Sheryl about this she said that on her recent skiing trip she realised that she put up with things not being right for far too long. Since adopting Step 4 of the discussion model and focusing her attention on what is working more often she has noticed that she let’s go of what is not working much faster.
Are you putting up with something for far longer than you should?
Are you are less tolerant than you would like?
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Thanks for listening
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