I remember feeling a failure because I couldn’t or maybe perhaps wouldn’t plan like the business coaches suggested. Instead I found my own unique way to plan using colour pens, A4 pieces of paper and my own unique creative way of getting my ideas out of my head.
Over the years with a clear foundation of understanding ‘how’ I plan and make decisions I have been able to add to and improve my model. I can now listen to the the experts and have updated and improved my strategy and it works because the basic framework is mine.
All too often when learning something like planning and decision making from someone else you can find yourself almost battling inside trying to match the new knowledge with at least a small piece of your existing knowledge. This internal wrangle can result drama and prevent you from gaining the most from the learning.
With your own basic model in place you will understand your own unique and bespoke planning strategies then any other ‘teaching/training’ has a clear frame to add to.
My own decision making model was chaotic and emotional driven and I knew Mark (my husband) was more logical and clear thinking and yet it was too big a leap to simply adopt his thinking.
Instead I had to understand my own then I could add pieces of his to mine. The most amazing thing has happened as a result of this shared learning as husband and wife. I discovered when I made decisions I was ‘trying’ to guess what how it impacted ‘everyone’ that mattered to my success and happiness and yet I rarely if ever had a clear outcome of what I personally wanted. All of my decision making process was based on an amalgamation of what I believed others wanted.
As soon as I learned to ask myself what I wanted and instead of guessing what others wanted I asked them decision making became slicker. I am a women so I love the fact that I can tap into my emotional and nurturing side and yet I can now do this in a more logical way.
Do, Delegate or Ditch is our 2 day retreat where you can learn how to take the drama out of planning and decision making. Please see below a couple of short testimonials followed by the pictures of my own decision making process before I learned to trust myself.
About the Author
Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening, well known for her passion to help others achieve, she has also been no stranger to challenging conversations, lapses in self belief and an overwhelming sense of not being enough. On the outside to everyone else you might have thought all was okay but how she was feeling inside was often a different story. You will leave every session with practical and bespoke tools that set you up for success and take the drama out of your communications. If you are fed up of emotionally reacting or being held back by lack of understanding, Sheryl provides you with a safe learning environment to take the drama out of any decision or relationship.
Sheryl says,” I am busy but never too busy for you so if you are fed up of the drama call me now +44(0)1329 286648. Let’s have a no obligation chat to understand what is happening for you and what you would like to have happen or join me in the Facebook Group and ask any questions you have.
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