As a newly qualified coach in 2008 I wanted reassurance I was doing a ‘good job’. I wanted to be the best coach I could be. I also recognise that I had a desire to be the best mum, best wife, best friend, best daughter and best business owner.
By investing a short amount of time to define what is happening when I am at my best I have seen significant improvements in every role that I currently hold. That time invested in exploring one role often resulted in strategies being transferred to the other areas of my life.
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As a new coach and even as a new mum the only way I knew to evaluate my success was to monitor the response of others, be it my clients or my children.
By asking myself more focused questions I have learned to listen differently to myself and determine new ways to give myself feedback. I have also learned how to ask more questions with the intention of understanding the response/opinions/feedback others give.
Even now in 2014 as I write this article I have noticed I still don’t have enough strategies in place to recognise my own personal success. However what I do have now is more confidence to ask for feedback. I can also filter feedback that I deem irrelevant to my own development.
Not having these skills in the past had a detrimental affect on my ability to work at my best in any role.
How do you evaluate your success?
When I was able to pay more attention to what was happening with regards to my own performance I was also more conscious of the impact my behaviour ‘could’ be having on others and I also discovered ways to acknowledge what was working.
The questions I now actively ask myself are:
What is happening when it works? Or another variation of the same question is
When ….(insert subject here such as coaching, leading or parenting) at my best that’s like what?
When something ‘feels’ like its not working I ask the question:
What would I like to have happen?
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About the author
Sheryl Andrews, Founder of Step by Step Listening and mum of a blended family of 5 children, is no stranger to challenging conversations, lapses in self belief and moments of an overwhelming sense of not being enough.
On the outside to everyone else you might have thought all was okay but how she was feeling inside was often a different story.
That was until 2008 when she discovered the work of David Grove and was introduced to Clean Language. This solution focused questioning technique is fast becoming the most effective way to change thoughts into action gave Sheryl the tools to listen to herself and others more effectively.
This deceptively simple process has been fundamental in providing Sheryl and her business partner Ros with the tools to grow an international business whilst maintaining harmony at home.
Sheryl says “We are so grateful to be surrounded by amazing clients that want to find more business for us and the great thing is their clients are doing the same for them”
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