How to make good decisions is dependent on learning from your mistakes. How quickly you recover and how quickly you adapt your process going forward will depend on your mindset and attitude towards mistakes.
Without realising it we all know more than we realise. Much of our every day activity is achieved by actions that have now become autopilot. The brain is picking up new information all the time and without consciously knowing it this information is influencing your decisions every day.
I suddenly became aware in one of my own sessions recently that my decision making process is made up of two areas. What I know in the way of logic and facts and how I feel.
Each decision has a certain amount of logic but there is the element of emotion. I noticed that there was more emotion associated with those decisions you have to make when you do not really know for sure if it will work, it is a bit of ‘suck it’ and see situation.
I have heard clients call this ‘going with the gut’ or ‘trusting intuition’ none of which sounds particularly concrete when it comes to providing evidence justifying your decision. Nonetheless it is part of mine and I suspect everyone’s decision making process although I won’t assume that to be true until I have actually asked ‘everyone’.
It turns out for me that the second part of the process, the emotional part, is going on mostly in the unconscious and ‘it’ resists analysis precisely because it is not logical. It is a representation of all we know but don’t perceive directly.
The emotional part of our brain is especially good at making hard decisions where lots of conflicting facts, opinions and emotions are in play. It is capable of processing in parallel much like a modern computer chip rather than in series like the logical part of our brain.
The reason this emotional intelligence is so powerful is that it is capable of turning our mistakes into knowledge which we can then draw on when making decisions in the future.
This process also brings to light the fact that the only way we can generate this powerful type of learning is by making mistakes and being allowed to learn for ourselves what does work and what doesn’t.
Recognising that I need to make a mistake in order to learn, makes me realise why I have worked better in some environments. When I have enjoyed working with a person or organisation and even for myself is when I have had “permission” to make a mistake without this becoming the entire focus of all future discussions.
As I shared this learning with Sheryl she mentioned that for her the clean approach creates a culture within families, business and communities where people opening talk about what isn’t working. Nothing is brushed under the carpet because they know it makes up part of the solution. When you fully understand and explore when it doesn’t work you can take steps to ensure it works better next time.
When we first start with clients often they are completely focused on either their own failings or those of others. Simply by changing the focus and asking what is working, they quickly recognise what has been gained from that situation.
This switch in mindset and attitude can be such a relief. if you are wanting to develop an independent team then please remember you made mistakes and you are hear to tell the tale.
Allow them to tell the tale to you without judgement and you will both learn, grow and develop.
Get frustrated and cross and soon enough people will stop telling you when it doesn’t work.
What I know is that knowing I can make mistakes and learn from them, makes me a better student.
What difference could it make for you and your business? If any??
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Thanks for listening
Business Development Manager